I used to think this phrase and suggestion was good. 'If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.' I don't think I believe this anymore. It is certainly better than saying something mean and hurtful, but sometimes people need to hear kind words. Now I think, I must find a way to speak kindness and love even when it isn't the first thing that pops into my head.
Thanks to Speak Love by Annie F. Downs, I've been thinking a lot about my words lately!